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How to Search the Web on Behalf of Wounded, Ill and Injured Service Members

There’s a wealth of information online that can be helpful to families of injured, ill or wounded service members. People involved in your service member’s care are likely to often refer you to information on the Internet. If you don’t have a great deal of experience on the Internet, here are some basics to help you find what you’re looking for. To learn more click here.

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Remembering Your Loved One on Father’s Day
After the loss of a loved one, every day can be incredibly hard to get through, but a special day or holiday such as Father’s Day can be even more difficult to face and manage. Although there is nothing anyone can do or say to erase your pain or heartache, below are suggestions for getting through special days such as this one, followed by a list of articles on coping with grief and loss.Read more

Remembering Your Loved One on Father’s Day

After the loss of a loved one, every day can be incredibly hard to get through, but a special day or holiday such as Father’s Day can be even more difficult to face and manage. Although there is nothing anyone can do or say to erase your pain or heartache, below are suggestions for getting through special days such as this one, followed by a list of articles on coping with grief and loss.Read more

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Grieving the Loss of a Child During Special Occasions

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Lisiane M.Y. Valentine
Program Manager
Casualty, Mortuary, Military Funeral Honors

I still remember the first homemade card I received from my child on Mother’s Day—made out of construction paper, macaroni and way too much glue.  I imagine the concentration that must have gone into gluing each little piece of pasta onto the construction paper to present to me when I first woke up that day.  Simple acts of love and kindness make holidays like this so special.  And although Mother’s Day and Father’s Day are usually commemorated with cards, flowers, a special meal and celebration, for some—those who have lost a child—these special days of merriment can be particularly painful and challenging.  Mother’s Day and Father’s Day become less about being a mom or a dad and more about our children.  Often these days bring painful memories of our profound loss, sometimes they bring joyful memories of our precious child and then there is the realization that our lives have been changed forever.   

 

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Click to see Survivors Guide:This guide is intended to aid you as you work through the difficulty and pain of losing a loved one who was serving in the military.

Click to see Survivors Guide:This guide is intended to aid you as you work through the difficulty and pain of losing a loved one who was serving in the military.

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Staying Healthy during the Grieving Process

Lisiane M.Y. Valentine
Program Manager
Casualty, Mortuary, Military Funeral Honors   
ODASD MC&FP

The grief of losing a loved one is not something you are ever prepared for. Unlike a skinned knee or the flu, prevention is powerless in the face of grief, and even all the hand washing, exercise, healthy eating habits and immunizations in the world can’t prepare you for what it feels like to lose a child, a parent, a spouse or a significant other.

After unexpectedly losing my son, Justin, I thought I’d never recover.  Simply things like remembering to drink water and to eat became a chore.  Exercising definitely went out the window.  I felt like I was just surviving the moments ahead.  What kept me going was the thought of my other son, Gary, not only losing his brother, but his mom, too.  I owed being the best mom I possibly could to Gary.  I felt it was my duty to ensure that I got out of bed and showered every day and took care of my living son.  My goal was to be all I could be; it was the toughest struggle I ever could imagine.  I did not want to do anything but cry.

Just because it’s nearly impossible to plan or prepare for grief doesn’t mean we are powerless against it. When we are forced to endure the grief of losing a loved one, it’s more important than ever to take care of ourselves emotionally and physically. To cope emotionally, you might seek the comfort and support of a family member, friend, neighbor or support group. Coping physically, though, can present a challenge.

Think about blinking. We’re born knowing how to do it, but what if we suddenly had to remind ourselves to blink each day? Something that was once so easy that we did it involuntarily suddenly becomes a chore. In much the same way, we’re so used to eating regular healthy meals, squeezing in some form of exercise and sleeping that they become habitual. We can do each of those things without much thought, but when grief hits close to home, we may suddenly find ourselves neglecting these key aspects of our physical health. To ensure that you maintain your physical health during your time of grief, make a point to sleep whenever possible, eat regularly, drink plenty of water, exercise and see your doctor for your annual physical. 

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